Gertrude agrees, wishing she had a partner to lean on, "It would be nice if someone was waiting to see me at the end of the day, to give me that warm hug and to offer support when I am going through something." Nights can be lonely: "You have a lot of lunches with married friends because dinner time is for their families.Sometimes that means you are home alone on a Saturday night, unless you have lots of single friends," explains Stephanie.There's no handy husband and you often run the risk of being ripped off by workmen you hire.When you have to move or lift things, you have to call someone for help. You also have to lean on friends for a ride to or from some doctors' appointments -- a colonoscopy buddy." Single mothers in particular feel the weight of responsibility managing so much on their own: "A lot rides on my shoulders.Kind of like Stephen Colbert's "I don't see color." Or am I fooling myself?
Stephanie* explains: "It is harder to get stuff done around the house; there's just as much work but only one person.She never said anything about it but I vowed that I would never drop a friend like that again." Ellie has been on the receiving end of being dropped by married girlfriends -- in her case, after her divorce: "It hurt, a lot.